Irish People Share Their Coming Out Stories

  • Published: 27 June 2019
  • For Pride Month, we asked our LGBT TRYers to share their coming out stories. Their stories detail what it's like growing up LGBT in Ireland as well as commenting on the differences between then and now.
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  • The TRY Channel
    The TRY Channel   2 months back

    Hey, everyone. There was an issue with tonight's video where it wasn't sent to everyone's subscription feeds. As a result, we had to re-upload tonight's video (1080p will be available soon, don't worry). Unfortunately, the earlier of tonight's video had to taken down as the re-upload couldn't go up otherwise. Our deepest apologies to all those who had left comments of support or confiding their own stories and struggles - while those comments are sadly gone, in was in the interest that this video has full visibility allowing the world to see this video in the hopes that it can help even more people.

    Thank you all for your support. Happy Pride.

    - The TRY Team

    • Declan Judge
      Declan Judge  1 months back

      How do I have a stupid view liberalism has caused political unrest all over the world from old world empires such as the Dutch empire that invented slavery and British empire which destroyed peaceful civilization at will too today which if look at Libya and Syria all right not democracy but their people lived in peace till liberal Western countries marcons France and Obama's U.S.A. through a liberal intervention led to civil strife so don't try take the education defense because you are the only one who sound's stupid and ignorant

    • Nihilistic Atheist
      Nihilistic Atheist  1 months back

      Declan Judge As if anybody is going take notice of someone that doesn’t know the difference between your and you’re. Get an education before having a go at others with your ignorant views.

    • Declan Judge
      Declan Judge  1 months back

      If you think Ireland is so unaccepting get out or if you don't stop making out these people are the moral standard because they're same people who support far left views just look at they're parent channel BuzzFeed to them don't if you don't agree your a racist or Nazi

    • Charles Skaggs
      Charles Skaggs  1 months back

      for what? @Ball-Peen Hammer

  • Sean Chavez
    Sean Chavez  2 days back

    I never seen this one love all you guysn✌🤟🤙🌱💚

    • David Saunders
      David Saunders  4 days back

      I am so proud of you all

      • Dionicio Lombera
        Dionicio Lombera  6 days back

        This was lovely. Kisses from the queer girl in california 😘

        • Kathi Milner
          Kathi Milner  1 weeks back

          Just saw this..
          Cried my eyes out.
          I have 2 girls who came out as bi..
          They were terrified to tell me..
          I told them i always loved them, and i still did.
          I would always be there for them, and i didnt care who they were with.
          I didnt care if it was male, female, trans or a purple striped alien zebra..
          As long as they treat you well, and you are happy, thats all that matters.

          • ThtTrshPndaLfe 79
            ThtTrshPndaLfe 79  1 weeks back

            I'm not crying, you're crying. Shut up.

            • boppit
              boppit  1 weeks back

              TRY is one of my favorite channels. I am so happy that you shared your precious coming out experiences. Blessings, love and support to all of you!

              • Gulagg the champion
                Gulagg the champion  1 weeks back

                It seems to me that most of these stories end with understanding from friends and families; maybe LGBT people can relax a bit now and realize that alternative preferences are not that big of a deal to most straight people.

                • The MayorH
                  The MayorH  2 weeks back


                  • Katie Lemos
                    Katie Lemos  2 weeks back

                    My daughter came out to me when she was 11. I told her I loved her and nothing could ever change that. My family was a big ole bag of dicks. They said such horrible things that I haven't spoken to them in three years. My job is to love my kids, everyone else can go hang.

                    • Chronic Gamer 1980
                      Chronic Gamer 1980  2 weeks back

                      It baffles, sickens, and saddens me that the way people are born is still an issue. With that kind of archaic thinking I'm surprised we don't still burn witches at the stake. Cheers to a better future.

                      • Elle
                        Elle  2 weeks back

                        Drive I told them I'm gay

                        • LeFoxBott
                          LeFoxBott  2 weeks back

                          This is beautiful! I hope that more people see this!! if not I'm glad that I'm one the queer person that see this… because in one way or another… I'm a queer trans man THAT DOES DRAG! I Feel I could be the biggest "FUCK OFF" to 'Normal' people ever! But I remember every,one of my…. coming outs? (as lesbian, as a transvestite, as bi as a transgender as gay as bi) everyone…… and all of them hurt me in a way but i couldn't be happier with who i am today

                          • n3Cr0ManCeD
                            n3Cr0ManCeD  2 weeks back

                            These stories are the truest examples of courage and strength anyone could ask for. You are all to be admired and you have mine.

                            Funny thing about life. You sometimes find heroes when you weren't even looking.....

                            It's sad there are actually parents that do not comprehend what "unconditional" truly means.

                            • Greg Dankert
                              Greg Dankert  2 weeks back

                              Wonderful perspectives from all of you. Know that parents (like me ) with LGBTQ kids are proud of you.

                              • David Vincent
                                David Vincent  2 weeks back

                                Having worked in the "hospitality" business and also in video I have made many, many friends and I would like to say that about 30% are gay, lesbian or bi and quite frankly I don't care. I joke that I am try sexual which to me means I will try most anything sexual. AS long as someone does the job they are hired to do and the no one tries to convert me (unlike the rest of the country is trying to do to the rainbow movement because "they are not normal") we all get along. And lets face it I have been to some WILD parties considering I grew up in the 50's, 60's, and left for Viet Nam at the start of the 70's. I have smoked the best grass, drank the best shine, skinny dipped with the guys and girls. So thank you for "coming out" everyone it is refreshing to be able to know you all personally. Oh yea my father came from Dublin so even though I was born in Los Angles CA I am still a wee bit off kilter anyway. And finally I do know what you wear under a kilt (I have about a dozen of them) and at my age DEPENDS LOL

                                • Wire Rubbish Bin
                                  Wire Rubbish Bin  2 weeks back

                                  I like to see the Irish People Try videos knowing that some of the people involved are LGBTIQ, it makes me feel happy.

                                  • WraythSkitzofrenik
                                    WraythSkitzofrenik  3 weeks back

                                    YOU ARE ALL LOVELY AMAZING PEOPLE!

                                    • Ashley Moore Travels
                                      Ashley Moore Travels  3 weeks back

                                      Your stories made me feel something beautifully sad but wonderful. I may not be part of the LGBTQ but I will forever support anyone who has the strength to be who they are. Love is love no matter what!

                                      • Kev Q.
                                        Kev Q.  3 weeks back

                                        Absolutely beautiful!

                                        • Dillon House
                                          Dillon House  3 weeks back

                                          This was beautiful.

                                          • Tami Ramos
                                            Tami Ramos  3 weeks back

                                            I hope this is not taken the wrong way but I believe the people who gave this video a thumbs down (I am not one of them) probably did so because they are expecting another product for you all to try as opposed to hearing your personal stories. This is not a bad idea...but not on the Try Channel.

                                            • solidsnakeisme
                                              solidsnakeisme  4 weeks back

                                              Love is Love and your happiness is the most important thing in your world. If someone doesn't love you for who you are and doesn't support same sex love, they don't deserve to be in your life.

                                              • Paul Greenhalgh
                                                Paul Greenhalgh  4 weeks back

                                                Not sure if you will get and be able to read it, but you are amazing!! I sent your video to my niece who is having a tough go at it right now. You are amazing, beautiful and one of the reasons I keep watching the "Try Channel" Be safe, be smart! Lots of love from Canada

                                                • American Rambler
                                                  American Rambler  4 weeks back

                                                  Well done, y'all. Very moving and very important. Much love and respect.

                                                  • Heidi Clarke
                                                    Heidi Clarke  4 weeks back

                                                    I heart you all and am humbled by your ability to share your story with the world. <3

                                                    • -HAL- HaliensExist
                                                      -HAL- HaliensExist  4 weeks back

                                                      This is the best thing in the world! How have I not seen this til now??

                                                      • Dodge 76
                                                        Dodge 76  4 weeks back

                                                        God life is cruel, my 16 yr son came out last year as boy....I'm an emotional man and when he told me my worries as a father for my beloved hit new heights....I love him so much

                                                        • Dodge 76
                                                          Dodge 76  4 weeks back

                                                          I support his choice, as long as he's happy I'm happy....fuck the begrudgers

                                                      • Gaël des Montagnes Noires

                                                        Heavy :/

                                                        • ddavino
                                                          ddavino  4 weeks back

                                                          Beautifully shared. Uplifting honesty. Hopeful destiny. Thank you for this oasis of self esteem and compassion. These are the moments for you, the community, and the channel to be proud of and to celebrate.

                                                          • V Bye
                                                            V Bye  4 weeks back

                                                            God Bless you beautiful people, that was a beautiful video. Best wishes to everyone. From your friends in America.

                                                            • - ˏˋ katelyn
                                                              - ˏˋ katelyn  1 months back

                                                              • A E
                                                                A E  1 months back

                                                                I think one of those guys is the ass hole that ate protein boy.

                                                                • Deborah Abbenante
                                                                  Deborah Abbenante  1 months back

                                                                  This was a beautiful video. All these stories were humanity at its best. The trust and vulnerability one has to show when going thru self discovery and realization. Always keep hope. All love is beautiful. Each of these people seemed so scared to lose their families, thank god they loved them.

                                                                  • desiree see
                                                                    desiree see  1 months back

                                                                    ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 You're all amazing and strong. Thank you for sharing your stories with everyone.

                                                                    • Karen Pfeiffer
                                                                      Karen Pfeiffer  1 months back

                                                                      I have 3 daughters, one is bisexual, one is pansexual, and one is streight. I'm am so glad that they felt comfortable enough to come out to me and my husband. Nothing could change my love for them.

                                                                      • Matt Long
                                                                        Matt Long  1 months back

                                                                        I love each and every one of you, and thank you for your inspirational stories. By speaking out, you will bring power to those who are struggling.

                                                                        • Brooke’s Beauty
                                                                          Brooke’s Beauty  1 months back

                                                                          I’m very happy for those who have a great experience with coming out for those afraid to I apologize for society even though I can’t control it. I came out to my mom and she still calls my girlfriend my “friend “. Everyone

                                                                        • -Belue- -Myst-
                                                                          -Belue- -Myst-  1 months back

                                                                          I'm Panromantic. I will fall for whoever is my type (Gay, straight, whatever, we All have a type) and if you're my type (whatever you identify as) and you are a beautiful person to me above all, then there you go...Anywho, that was just for those who don't know what it means to be Panromantic and ALL kinds of people read these things, not just gays...Anyway...If I fall for a girl or Transgender or Genderfluid (as am I) I feel like I just want to be with them and I'll just be like, YEP, THAT'S MY GIRLFRIEND or whoever I end up with and that's how it goes...I mean, it's the same as any relationship and Heterosexuals don't have to explain who they are with, they are just with them...I kinda feel like it's lame that any Gay person has to come out when straight people don't have to...I TOTALLY understand the importance of comming out and I've been shitted on before about way more than just the Gay are really mean if you don't fit the mold, but I'm use to always being different at this point...I've told my mom and she was like, "OK! That's cool!"...Me and my dad are jokesters together and so I hid in the closet in the hallway and jumped out when he walked by and said, "I'm coming out!"...My dad was like, "You're still you right!?"...If anyone else mentions or talks about any Gay issues I'm like, "I'm Gay! I'm Fluid!"...That's just how it works for me! I'm an adult and I've had allot of time to just know what's my business and who are the important people who need to know...Works for me I guess! 😎

                                                                          • -Belue- -Myst-
                                                                            -Belue- -Myst-  1 months back

                                                                            OK! I'm gonna date myself and sound pretty cheesy...But I knew I was Gay, Panromantic (but I just say I'm Gay) as a kid when KD LANG the singer (sorry KD LANG, but when she was younger and hot) on MTV was in a music video and I was little and thought she was a guy. 😋 She had short hair and was in like kinda a suit shirt. When I found out later she was a girl, I was like, "OH! I STILL THINK SHE'S HOT!" 😏...

                                                                            ALSO, when MELISSA EATHERIDGE (another singer) started her long, blonde hair look in music videos and rocked out with tight pants on...I was all about her and I'm Alternative, so that was a double something...And she's still hot! 🔥 ...They are BOTH Gay by the way and were really being themselves and I dug that too...MELISSA EATHERIDGE even made an album called YES I AM and came out that way, so as a singer I loved that F you through music...

                                                                            When I was SUPER YOUNG, like 3 or 5...I had a crush on MARVIN THE MARTIAN from Looney Toons. 😂...

                                                                            I realized I was Genderfluid when pretty much every day as a kid my mom would ask jokingly, "Why are you changing your clothes again for like the 7Th time today?!"..."I don't know mom! I just didn't feel right in the last outfit!" (Some days I literally did change my clothes like 7 times)...All my Genderfluid homies get that (HA! I said "All my Genderfluid homies!" 😋🤪)...I'm also very creative type and clothes/your asthetic, I feel is just an outward expression of how you feel as a person and what you want to express and say to the world. 🎃 ✌️🤘🖖🙏🏽💀🤖☯️ 🕊️ ☮️

                                                                            • saranoconas anderson
                                                                              saranoconas anderson  1 months back

                                                                              hugs and love to all you beautiful people and thank you for sharing your story.

                                                                              • Ryan Goforth
                                                                                Ryan Goforth  1 months back

                                                                                Beautiful video!

                                                                                • countrygurl03us
                                                                                  countrygurl03us  1 months back

                                                                                  Just when I thought I couldn't love you guys anymore, you have proven me wrong.  Thank you for sharing such personal stories with us and trusting us with this.  I love each and every one of you.  And to anyone else reading the comments.  Here is a hug from a mom to anyone who needs it. I hope that this video gives you hope and that you know that you are loved and accepted. I truly believe that God doesn't make mistakes and he made you the way you are and there is nothing wrong with that.

                                                                                  • Suzy Feiler
                                                                                    Suzy Feiler  1 months back

                                                                                    Everyone's life is worth living. Just be yourself and if people don't like you for who you are then they aren't worth being in your life! 😘

                                                                                    • Hyena laughing matter
                                                                                      Hyena laughing matter  1 months back

                                                                                      soo this channel also sold out to the eilte.. okaaay

                                                                                      • Ryan Harmon
                                                                                        Ryan Harmon  1 months back

                                                                                        I just want to say I love you all. You are so brave, you are all amazing and powerful people. love and God bless.

                                                                                        • Jeremy Snow
                                                                                          Jeremy Snow  1 months back

                                                                                          I think this message on this channel is so incredibly important. TRY. It’s as simple as that. Whatever another person’s sexual orientation is, TRY to make them feel safe about it. If you don’t understand how a person can be that way, TRY. If you see someone being vilified for being who they are and feel like you should put a stop to it, TRY (non-violently of course). The TRY Channel has brought so much laughter and joy to so many people, but it’s important to know that sometimes the deepest laughter comes from the dark. I’ve lost loved ones because they thought simply no one would TRY for them. Thank you all for sharing your stories and making this video.

                                                                                          • Raul Navarrete
                                                                                            Raul Navarrete  1 months back

                                                                                            Wow" much respect to you all .. at times It must of been very difficult .. but to have the courage to come out shows your character and that is a very strong person .. I'm glade to have meet you through facts and now the TRY channel thank you so much for sharing your stories your all Beautiful love you Much a fan .